0217 Female Led Relationships: "AMA" - Chastity, Denial, and Real FLR Life

Yeah, oh, she's got a very, oh, oh. We'll cut that out. You don't want my Minnesota in there? I'm getting nervous and biting my nails. That's starting the podcast, actually. This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. If you're not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to, and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers, or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle, and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. Welcome back, episode 17, season two, 17. Today we are doing a ask me anything. I had talked about this a while back and said to email me any questions or things that you wanted me to talk about or just answer on a podcast episode, and I had one listener who sent me a whole bunch of fantastic questions. So I brought my subbie. I'm waving. To help me answer these questions or give his side because some of them are about him. And here we are. We are here. I think the only thing for housekeeping is that we had a pretty major spike in downloads last week, and it's continuing into this week. So if you're new to the podcast, thank you for coming along for the ride. Yes, and welcome. Yeah. I hope you enjoy. Yeah. All right, then we can just dive in. I think that's about it. Yeah. All right. Okay, this is a multi-part question right off the bat. Jeez, make it tough. You like it like it rough. Tough. Oops. I mean, either would work. Yes. Okay. How do you feel about Forced By? I'll let you answer that first. Well, I don't know if this, if Forced By applies to us necessarily, because, I mean, I'll do whatever. Whatever I say. So it's not really forced, I suppose, but maybe forced out of comfort zone a little bit. So my submissive nature secretly likes being forced out of my comfort zone. So there is that. I think that anybody that is experiencing Forced By probably wants it, but wants the illusion of the forced part maybe. Yeah. And maybe not. Maybe there are some situations where the woman who's in control really wants to observe her man, her cuck or whatever, interacting with another man, and her man doesn't much care for it. And that would be a forced situation, obviously. But I think in that case, I mean, a safe word would apply. So if it's really that bad, the person being quote unquote forced could throw the safe word and stop the play. I think that there are a lot of men that are interested in bisexual activities. But are too scared to acknowledge that because they are concerned that people are going to think they're gay. That's a hot button topic for me, as we all know. Just talk about pegging. But obviously, if you're going to do Forced By, you have to have your boundaries set up. You have to have your safe word, like he mentioned. And I think there needs to be some communication before going into something like that. I don't know if that's something that you should just do in the heat of the moment, like you're in the moment and all of a sudden, you're like, oh, you're going to do this. And maybe that's okay for some people. Maybe those boundaries have been established from the get-go and that's acceptable and more power to you. Maybe it springs up in the middle of an evening out or something, I guess anything's possible. There's all kinds of different parameters. The next part of this question is, does your husband fluff the bull? And have you ever allowed or would you allow? Another sub to orally service your husband or vice versa? I would absolutely want my husband to fluff my bull. I don't know. I think in our dynamic, as far as another submissive orally servicing my husband, I think it would depend on the person. Like, I think it would be absolutely phenomenal to see a man sucking my husband's dick and why it would be okay for a man and not a woman. I can't answer that. That's just how my brain works. But I don't know, that would be something where I would be forcing that on him because he would be more of the one that would want to be performing the oral rather than receiving it, I think. Probably. But I think it would be definitely situational. I mean, there's a couple of people that I can think of right off the top of my head that it would be really hot to see them suck your dick. But I don't, I guess if we were in the moment, I mean, we all know I'm a ginormous cock tease, so it's hard to say. However, I mean, it's your cock and I'm just observing. So maybe it would be different. I don't know. So I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility. I think it would depend on the person that would be orally servicing him. Right. And I mean, I think I kind of answered, you'd rather be the giver than the receiver from a man. I think so. Yeah. I mean, he loves it when his wife sucks his dick. There is that. Okay. Ooh, this one is fantastic. How often do you have sex with your husband? So I was just going to say when you said that I love when my wife sucks my dick, I was about to say that was so long ago. He doesn't remember. Listen. And then the next question is, what's the next question? I just put it in my mouth in the shower, literally the other day. Okay, well. Like two days ago. So my husband is deprived. Yes. Very much so. I absolutely do deny. And yet I'm in the happiest time of my life. Honestly, genuinely, sincerely. So what is the proof that sex does not determine your happiness? Yeah, that's a true statement. Very much so. I rub my butt on your junk every night before we go to bed. I mean, action's action. I'll take it. What would you say is the longest period between orgasms? For you or for me? No, you. For me. I have orgasms all the time. We're talking. Correct. I was going to say we need to discern which is which. Yeah. I would guess six months if I had to say. It's never been longer than six months. I don't think so. I don't think it's been longer than six. I guess I don't have a running tally. Yeah, we should maybe keep better track of that so we could answer. I mean, it was just the other day. Fuck, we didn't even have sex on our anniversary. No, and it's been years since that. Our anniversary was just on New Year's Eve, sir. Oh, there's that. Just kidding. Okay. Do I deny him? Yes. I would say I deny him. Yes. And I'm very good at it. Very much so. I didn't know if we addressed that. I want to make sure we had that covered. Yeah, we should absolutely address that. Can you make the text bigger on the old notes? I don't got my glasses on. And I can't see. Yeah, absolutely can. How often is your hubby in chastity? Pretty much all the time. I mean, if I'm not using it, I might as well lock it up. Correct. That's kind of what I thought too. What is his release schedule? This is a fun question. We don't really have one. When we were, we don't let him have a release. We don't have a schedule. For anything. Anything at all, ever. Oh, fuck. Yeah. True story. We are very... I don't know that there's a determined time. I think it's more necessity than time. Well, we used to do every Sunday. I mean, there's days where he has to come out of it to do a deep cleaning. Like once a week, we really clean it. Right. But that happens different days. Yeah. It's not specifically on a day, but as far as a day where he gets to have a release. That's a whole different story. Yeah. I mean, maybe, I don't know. I always say that maybe camp will be different this year, but... You've said that for coming on three years now. Well, at least somebody's coming. No, nobody's coming. Well, you're coming. Sorry. What is the question? Oh, what is his release schedule? We were anti-schedule. Not by choice, just by craziness, I think. How often does he wear his cage? We talked about that. How often is your husband in chastity and how often does he wear his cage? Kind of the same situation. I think so, yeah. He prefers though, if anyone asks him, he prefers to be in his cage. He feeds his wife. He feels better with it on. Yes, that is a true statement. And it brings him closer. He feels closer to me when he has his cage on. Yes, that is absolutely the fact. I think it's a level of bond between us that only we share. I mean, we share it with... All of you. You, the listener and a couple of friends. But other than that, it's just that thing that we share together. It's kind of like our secret. It's how our dynamic, it's part of how our dynamic works in our household. Like it's something that we know is there. Nobody else knows is there and allows us to live this dynamic without really advertising it to the kids. Or I mean, obviously we wouldn't advertise chastity to our kids. Or in general to anyone really. For the most part, anybody that knows us, they don't really know what's going on that level. Yeah, it's pretty interesting too. Speaking of our dynamic in front of our kids, my daughter who's 18, it's funny to observe her. She has a lot of... That acorn is right next to the tree. Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, obviously I don't know anything about her sex life, nor do I want to, unless she feels comfortable sharing with me. But just how she interacts with her boyfriend is very similar to how Ryan and I interact. She's taken some pointers from mom. Now, I mean, not going... Yeah, she's not like whipping her boy. No. Not with any implements that we know of, but it's not... I mean, it's not really like full on FLR type. No. It's just, it's picking on a little bit and telling him to do things a little bit and making him do... She is very dominant in their relationship. She is the one that's in control. However, she has a lot of that of the same quality as me too, in that she is also a very big nurturer. She is making sure he's taken care of and all of that. But it was just interesting. It's been very noticeable the last few days when they've been here watching TV in the living room or whatever. Absolutely. Are your husband's orgasms reward-based for him or your pleasure-based? In other words, do you let him orgasm for good behavior, or do you let him orgasm because you want one? I'm going to pick A and B for that one. I think so. Right? I mean... Both coming to play for sure. Yeah. If there's a situation where, like I know I've said this a ton, where we are going through some shit. I mean, there's a lot going on in our life in general. And sometimes we take away everything and it's just a matter of we need to connect. We need to, I mean, we just need that moment to kind of ground ourselves or just connect on that level. That's relationship type. Yep. You know, that's pushing everything away and us as a couple nurturing our relationship. Well, I was going to say it'd be like vanilla sex, but it isn't vanilla. No, not really. So, I mean, and listen, there's nothing wrong with vanilla sex either. I mean, sex is sex. Whatever works for you, get her done. Right. Orgasming for good behavior. I mean... I mean, I'm good all the time. Well, I wouldn't get carried away. I don't know if I would say it. He is very well behaved. He's a good boy for the most part. I try to be. So, I don't know that and I don't know that I don't know that I would want to use an orgasm as could be. I mean, like if I was going to do an orgasm for good behavior, I would, you know, jerk him off and not ruin it at the end. Or, you know, something along those... That's an interesting concept. Or something along those lines. Yeah. Or something that we don't normally do. That would be more of a reward. But sex itself, I don't know that I would... I guess I don't know. I've never given that much thought. It's a very thought-provoking question. It's something to think about. Yeah. Do you just want me to think about sex or just do the sex? Both. It'd be great. Okay. Okay. Okay. What do you see as the goal of keeping your husband in chastity? My entertainment. Would his chastity goal ever be complete or is it an ongoing exercise? So, this is a... These are great questions. They did so good. This is all one listener that sent these. They are fantastic questions. It's more of a lifestyle for us. It's not necessarily... I mean, it's just like part of our... It's almost like part of our day-to-day. Right. It's very much our journey, more of a destination. So, a goal would be reaching the destination, but chastity for us and our relationship, it's an ongoing thing. So, I guess if there was a goal, it would be solidifying who is the dominant and who is the submissive, right? I mean, that would be an aspect of it if that would be considered a goal. Yeah. I guess. I mean, we know I'm the dominant. Right. You carry the key and I wear the thing. It's my fucking podcast. It is your fucking podcast. I haven't used that one in a while. No. New listeners won't know about that one, but this is her fucking podcast. So, would we ever not practice chastity? I mean, I don't know. I don't know if that... I mean, we don't know what the future holds. So, that absolutely. I mean, especially considering what is coming up for us in the future, moving into the camper full-time and my 12-year-old will be with us and we will have very minimal privacy. However, I mean, we have a bathroom in the camper. Eventually, we're going to have a bus and we will have our own private spaces and things like that. I don't know that chastity... I don't know that we will choose not to participate in that. I don't think that that's a determining factor, really, whether we continue with chastity or not. I think that... I mean, that just happens in the background all the time. Yeah. You know, it doesn't really... Like, living space doesn't necessarily determine whether that is ongoing or not. Yeah. I mean, obviously, if we fucking fly, we'll take it off. Lesson learned. Yeah. See episode seven? Fuck. I don't know about... Holy shit. It's on TikTok, too. Don't wear a cage through TSA. Nope. FYI, or get a card. There's... TSA has guidelines for you to do that. I always like to bring that up every once in a while, but we will not be trying that again. Thank you for having me. I like having you here. I wish I had you here more. That would be fun. I think it would be fun, too. And here's why I think that, and I just said this to somebody. You don't have to put this in the episode if you don't want, but here we are. A good portion of my listeners are men. Right? And I think... Hey, buddy. Thanks for listening. I think... True story. I think that while men appreciate listening to what I have to say, I think having your spin on things as somebody who is a submissive daily, I mean, that's our life. I think a lot of people enjoy hearing what you have to say and your opinions on things. So I just... Listen. I would like to have you here more. There is a whole tangent to go off on when it comes to men wanting to step into this situation and what they've been subjected to on social media or Pornhub or whatever on what the reality of this situation is. And there's a whole fucking tangent to go off on all this. So on that same line of the ask me anything, if you have questions for my subbie, send them to me and I will have him on. He will answer the questions. I don't know everything, but I think I can be helpful. I think my two cents may help. That's my line. I don't know everything, but I can give you my opinion. Right. But that's exactly what this podcast is about. Yeah. I'm just giving you shit. We're just two people madly in love sharing what we know with what we do. We're just talking about it. And we would love to talk to you about it if you have questions. And we can do phone calls. We can do phone calls together too. Yep. We have all that stuff. It'd just be a friend talking to a friend. This is way more about building a community. Oh, absolutely. That's what this is about. When I say something about my only fans or my passion for this is getting to meet people and having people to talk to and network with that live this lifestyle. Right. And there may be a listener who wants to know more or know you more on one level or another. And we have two viable options for both levels. No, I know. You know, it's not free to do this. Right. We're not making bank on it. So I hope that that answered all the questions. I hope you all enjoyed listening. I hope that if you have questions or things that you would like us to address in the podcast, you can reach out. Contact info is below. I don't know how many times I'm going to say that, but it's fucking below. Use it. I love it. It's all there. Everyone have a fantastic week. Stay warm. I'm missing my black tank tops and my shorts very, very much. Not that I don't enjoy wearing your clothes. You're on the downhill slide, though. I hope everyone stays safe, stays warm, has a fantastic week. And we will chat soon. Love you all.