0218 Female Led Relationships: AMA PT2: FLR, Parenting, Chastity, and Cuckolding

Here's how my brain works. Enjoy the show. This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. If you are not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to, and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers, or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle, and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. Welcome back. Episode 18. Last week, when we were doing a question and answer session, we meeting me and my subbie, there was so many questions we have to break it into two episodes. These are probably my favorite. As for housekeeping, I gots nothing, so we don't have to talk any more about camping or anything else. Thanks for listening, and let's dive into these questions. Enjoy. Okay, so they also asked about my piercings and tattoos. I would like to do an episode on that specifically, not just an episode of my tattoos. I mean, I'm not that vain, but... No, but that is definitely a separate episode because there's going to be interviews with a couple of different people, and you know who you are because you're probably listening. I hope so. And thank you for listening. That's very nice of you. Yeah. It's something that kind of talks about how people interpret you because you have tattoos or how that all works. And then in that episode, I will kind of incorporate this person was specifically asking if I regret any of them and if I have a favorite and what is the meaning behind all of them. I mean, listen, by the time I'm done, I could do a whole hour episode on all the tattoos because I hope to be covered someday. Does my husband have any piercings or tattoos? If so, do you have a favorite? My subbie only has two. Tattoos. Yes. No piercing. No piercings. I'm not, I don't like the Prince Albert is intriguing to me, but I just, I just like the metal that comes off of his wiener. I don't necessarily want to leave all of it. Yeah. I might have to throw the safe word if it comes to that. Cause I just don't think that I'm, I don't know. Listen, we have enough complications in life. True fucking story. We just don't need more. Yeah. And that's a pretty vital part of your body. Like I'd like to keep that intact. So the cage, well, you know, outsiders are like, Oh my God, how do you put that on there? And how do you do this? It's really not that bad. It's not a major endeavor to be caged. Right. You know? I mean, physically, it's not a major thing. Mentally, it's a major, right. Mentally, it's a whole major thing, but it's not, it's not physically difficult to be, to put a cock cage on the right cage, by the way. Yeah. It can be physically painful. Like I say, you know, I had a couple of people ask me on Tik TOK and just for anybody who might care, as far as chastity goes, I, the urethral tube is a huge no for me. I didn't even, I mean, that's not even an option. I don't have any desire to shove anything in his pee hole. I had a catheter and it fucking ruined my vagina. Well, not my whole vagina, just my urethra. I mean, just. And it was incredibly painful. Yeah. I mean, going back to, we have enough problems in life. We just don't need to introduce more. Yeah. I don't want to be shoving any bacteria up there. I'm worried about it being sanitized good enough. So that's a hard no for us, but. Call us wimps. I don't care. Sign me up. I'll be a wimp. Yeah. No. And again, it, it leads itself to you do your FLR, right? So this is the way we're doing ours and that's okay. Real quick question too, for anybody out there that does use the urethral tube, just because I happened to mention a catheter and then that made my brain go. So if you have a urethral tube up your urethra, then does your pee just leak out? Or do you still have control of that? That's a good question. Anyone who knows the answer, my contact information is linked below. Please let me know. I never, I never even thought about that just came to mind. Here's how my brain works. Enjoy the show. Do your children know about your kinky lifestyle, the cuckolding or the FLR? I think this is a dilemma for every parent in the lifestyle. I a hundred percent agree. No, my children do not know. My daughter once heard me call my husband, my subby and kind of questioned that a little bit. The children recognize, well, the girls recognize that really I'm the decision maker. So a lot of times they come to me to ask. Um, to ask for things or whatever, or they just come to me like, because I pretty much run the house just because that's how our relationship works. So if it's something related to, Hey, I need to go here. I need to do this or, Hey, can you help me with this? It is generally me. But, um, I think they both pretty much. My daughter generally comes to me just because she's my daughter and I'm her mom. His daughter will come to me mainly because I know more of what's going on in the household. If she has questions about things or whatever, or if she wants to talk, girl talk, she will generally come to me. Um, she does go to her mom with things and she's very open with her mom as well. So it's not, you know, I'm not trying to be her mom, but I think in general, the kids, I mean, the youngest fucking goes to you. I mean, he's all about you. Yeah, sort of. I mean, he like idolizes you, I think. Maybe. I don't know. I think that the girls, I think that they, they, they know that you're in charge, right? But they don't know necessarily that there's a label for that or there's a thing, you know? And honestly, there's a lot of people who live this same way and don't realize that they're in essence living in FLR. And listen, I talked about this on TikTok too. You don't have to have the label. I mean, I understand like it here's, and this is very sexist of me. So I'll apologize. Let me preface by saying, I'm sorry, it's not intended to be sexist. But I think that in a female led relationship dynamic, um, when initially starting out, because 90% of the time it's the man that wants it and that's fantastic. But I think that the male, I think the men like the label because it kind of solidifies word. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. It solidifies the relationship. Like it, it holds some weight to it because as much as I dislike labels, these words hold power. I mean, you give them the power that they hold, but I think that the male or the men males, whatever, sometimes in the beginning really prefer that language or vice versa. You're living that dynamic, but you don't want the label on it because it's so socially unacceptable, which is bullshit. But getting back on track to whether our kids, whether our kids know, they don't know the label of it. They don't know that we live a female led relationship and they sure don't know about chastity. Or cuckold or any of the extra things. Nope. They do know about my erotic voiceover work. They know I do voiceover work. No, I have a podcast, but, um, they know not to ask questions about the podcast. I think too well. And if they ask, I'll answer them. I mean, the girls, not they, they know, they know what they don't want to know. Yeah. That's what I want to say. And if they were to ever come to me and ask questions, you know, about our dynamic, I would answer them as tastefully as possible. And if more questions arise, then I will go more into detail. There's, there's plenty that you can say about the relationship itself that doesn't involve the sexual aspects to it, you know, or the, uh, you know, chastity, cuckold, whatever. You can, you can go deep into that, into explaining what this all is without even having to mention the other two. And you could mention the other two if you wanted to, and not even have to, um, claim that as part of ours, you know, just giving them the information. I will say this as kind of a side side note. I know a lot of parents struggle because they live this dynamic and it's such, it's got such a negative stigma in society. And I think now, well, I'm coming across more and more people who are bashing on parents that live this lifestyle saying that they're shitty parents because they live this lifestyle and they have kids. I guess the biggest thing I would like to point out is you are still a human being, even though you have children, like you still have to make time for yourself and be you while guiding your child or, but just because you have kids doesn't mean you can never do anything because, oh my God, you have kids. You're a mom. Listen, you're still a person. You're still an individual. You're more than just a mom. Live your fucking life. And you're not a bad parent for exploring. If your children came to you and told you they were interested in chastity, FLR and, or cup holding, cup holding, how would you respond? What would you tell them? I mean, I know it's my fucking podcast, but you go ahead and answer one. Well, I mean, we, we kind of talked about that just in the previous question. Yeah. Um, but in the, in the event that they, they push further, they've heard these words. I guess we're mostly talking about the girls right now. Um, probably not the youngest. Um, if, if they pushed and wanted to know about these things, I feel like an, uh, an adult explanation of things that isn't off of Tik TOK or YouTube or Google or their friends for that matter. Um, somebody who lives those things realistically has the, the better explanation for what those things are and, and what those things could mean to the man or the woman involved. If either one of the girls or the youngest came to me, obviously the youngest should be at least 18. I mean, I don't, and his daughter is just about age of 18 in June. So if they were to come to us and say they are interested in chastity, FLR, or cup holding, I can't imagine we would be their first person that they would come to, but I have really tried very hard to be open and honest about talking about sex, protecting yourself, that it's okay to say no. All of these things. I've been very open about sex. We're very open about farts and poop and all of the things in our house. So it is entirely possible that they could come to us about this. I would absolutely, if that is something they were interested in, I would try to give them the best information I could offer them resources that I am comfortable with them doing their own research on or, you know, like, I mean, they should check out Christine's FLR podcast. Yeah. No, I don't. Or not. Yeah. Either way. I think that would gross them out a lot. Well, I mean, in fairness, they're really, and I guess I don't know, there's what, 30 million podcasts or something like that. Right. So there may be a similar podcast to this one. I guess I'm not really sure. I check on an ongoing basis to see if there's anything else out there like it, but there really isn't much that doesn't involve just straight out porn or whatever. You know, there's very little relational type, you know, or from a relational point of view on this type of lifestyle. It'd be nice if there was so that we could push them that way. But I don't know if we would want our daughters listening to this one. Probably not this one, but I mean, listen. Not yet anyways. They have me. I mean, we're real live. I mean, we can offer them the advice. Right. From, I would give them as much information as I could to make sure, one, that they're safe, that they're handling, you know, that they're doing things appropriately and make sure that they're advocating for themselves. That would be the biggest things that I would want them to know. I would, you know, offer reference materials or things that I have read or looked at that I feel confident are depicting this type of dynamic in a healthy way. Right. That's the main part of it, a healthy way. Yeah. And I don't, I mean, listen, this is the type of open we are. My daughter jokes all the time that she's going to start an OnlyFans. Well, she's 18. I said, go do it. Like I'll, I mean, check out this entrepreneur podcast. Yeah, absolutely. That's like, you know, that's like starting blocks right there. But, you know, I think she says it just to get a rise out of me, but I mean. It won't. It'll get a rise out of her own dad. Yeah. But not us. I mean, if she's okay with putting things on the internet like that and she has to understand all the consequences of everything that comes with it, but if she's comfortable with that and she jokes that she's just going to do feet pics, but listen. Again. She's got cute feet. She could totally do it. Absolutely. Not that I'm telling her. We're not promoting it. But. But. I'll give her the information she needs. Right. Anyway, would you ever allow a listener to interview you? Fuck yeah. Fuck to the yes. Anytime. Bring it on. Okay. Would you ever play? Not that we like talking about ourselves or anything. No, but I, I, well, and it's interesting when you talk with other people, you know. It could bring other things out that, that, you know, it's not that these are scripted by any means. This, we're just talking off the cuff, but being interviewed by somebody else is interesting because it bring, it could bring out other things that you wouldn't normally think of. Yeah. It's real thought provoking. Right. I like it. Just like these questions. Which is also why I like having him on the podcast, because when him and I are together, he says things that make my brain go. I'm good for your brain. You are good for my brain. Would you ever play with another submissive guy in a dominant submissive role as a way to tease or cuckold your husband? If you call it that. I don't think you do well as a submissive at all. No, I could never be a submissive. And I don't, I could, it's the only person I could ever be a submissive with would be you because I don't trust anybody enough to ever submit. Yeah. We all know that ain't happening. If I was ever going to be submissive to anybody, it would only be you because I have all the trust in the world and I don't trust anybody else to be in control. And I, I would even struggle with you. I don't like to not be in control. I mean, there's certain things you are in control of and are dynamic. Like, um, you know, you help me stay on track with what needs to be done and things like that. That's one of my very few roles. As far as like this podcast and social media and things like that. He is, he's the one that pushes me and kind of, because this is all new to me and I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. And I've done it all my life. So he is somewhat in control of that. And I even struggle with that. Some days, some days I'm just like, shut the fuck up. I know. And I know not to say things sometimes. Yeah. Even though it's screaming in my head. Yeah. But I don't have a neck. You have a neck. Your clothes are real big and baggy, but fucking shit. They're warm. I like them a lot. So, no, I don't know that I would, even as a method of torture or teasing or humiliation or whatever, where do you want to associate with it? I don't want, I would never be a submissive. Would I ever take on another submissive? Maybe in current times, probably not. Um, again, yeah. And again, I say this all the time that I have to have a connection, but then I think of them as a human play toy. So it's really contradictory, but I think it would really depend on the person. I mean, it's not out of the question. I would absolutely consider it. It would just depend on who the submissive person was, because I tend to come across people who say they are submissive, but then try to boss me. And that ruins the whole fucking thing very fast. Um, oh, how would you respond? Or would you, how do you, or how would you respond to me taking on another submissive as a form of, I mean, you know, if I'm bound and gagged to the chair, I don't like the gag thing, but maybe I could find one that is acceptable or something. Yeah. If you're tied to a chair in a cock cage naked, yeah, let's do this. Right. It could be all kinds of things. And it could very much be another submissive. It could be a dominant bull, you know, having his way with you. That's not necessarily you being submissive, but that's you sort of in a submissive-ish role. That's interesting. That's an interesting twist on things. Like he's the big, okay, we're thinking stereotypically. Yeah. Obviously, but he's the big, powerful bull. Yep. And he's having his way with my wife and I can't do anything about it. And let's do that, please. Pretty please. Um, but that's, that's like, that's a submissive-ish role that you would be in. Um, sort of bobbing my head back and forth if you can't see this. I would say, yeah, I guess that in that instance, I would be submitting to somebody in a sense. I mean, I'm still in control and if anything happens and I don't, you know what I mean? I'm done. I'm out. But. I mean, you are just interacting with that person on however level that is. Yeah. You know? Yep. So, and how would I respond? I'd probably drip. Wood dripping is sexy. Yeah, I'd probably drip. A lot. Yep. I mean, we sort of did that once and, um. You know, it's funny too, speaking of we sort of did that once. Um, when we did the photo shoot and. Oh. With the sucker in the cage. Um. Video on OnlyFans, by the way. Shameless plug, shameless plug. Uh, that is probably one of my absolute favorite pictures is your cage with the drippage. And here's the other thing that I find interesting. I'm very jealous of you or very jealous about you. Like I'm very possessive. You're mine. I don't share you well with anybody. Right. But during that whole photo shoot, I had no problem with. The photographer? Yeah. I don't, I don't know if I want to say her name. No, it's okay. We can just call her the photographer that we love so much. My camp bestie. Yes. Um, who no longer goes to our camp. I might need a moment. We're just going to have to stalk them in other ways. Well, it's a great big world and we can be right next door to them. You fuckers are listening. We love you. Um, but I had no problem. I have no problem with her touching you or you know what I mean? Which is interesting and leads me to believe that if I have that close of a relationship with somebody, I mean, I still, it like makes me want to throw up a little bit thinking about like you two having sex. No. And, and I can say in those, in those moments, I was a little intimidated by her. She has a very dominant personality, which is interesting because their dynamic is fascinating. Yeah. They're basically two switches. Yeah. It's fine. And it's, and sometimes they're not like connected the right way. Like sometimes they're both dominant. Some they're like, can you guys get on a schedule of some sort? I don't know. Oh, they're fine. It's fascinating. Okay. That was just an observation that I made. Like, I always say that I could never be a swinger. Like I couldn't share you, but I don't know if that's entirely true. Like, I don't know that swinging is entirely off the table for you. Yes. It would really depend. I mean, there's a whole cornucopia of things to say here because, just because in hypothetical land where we live sometimes, so many problems are solved in hypothetical land. Yeah. True story. Just saying. In hypothetical land, if you were to share her with, or share me with her, I don't know if I would call that swinging. Well, and here's my other thing, you know, like maybe I'm not a swinger, but I'm not a swinger. And I think my biggest thing with even messing around with him is just, I'm so scared that I'm going to ruin our friendship. And like, I genuinely love these people. They are good human beings. Yeah. And I know that it probably, it wouldn't ruin anything. I don't think so. I'm so scared because boy, our life would suck without them in it. Right. And even still, if you ended up doing something with him, I don't know that I would call that swinging. I think that that, the four of us have a very unique situation, like we've never had friends like this. True story. We've never been this close to other people in both of our lives. So I think that if, no, I mean, really, there's nothing we can't tell these people. Right. I mean, my, my strawberry bestie or my strawberry. Right. You know what I mean? She knows, but she doesn't know everything. Well, I, there's nothing I wouldn't necessarily, there's nothing I wouldn't tell her. Right. I mean, I trust her. But on that level, it's just her. Yeah. You know what I mean? And she doesn't live this lifestyle. It's a different, it's a different connection. I'm just, it's not a better than or worse than, it's just a different. So, so what I was getting at is we have, we have a extremely unique relationship with our friends that if something sexual were to happen, I think it's almost a natural part of the level of friendship that we have with them. You know, we'll just take it to the next level. Like then we're super besties instead of just besties. Maybe. Maybe. That's an interesting. I get that. It's such a unique, it's such a unique relationship that we have with them. Like you know, it's, it's not a brother and sister relationship. You know, it's, it's not as, but I mean, it's not, it's not a, you know, simply bestie, you're my bestie, whatever. It's on another level than any friendship we've ever had. Yeah. Yep. So that by, by, in that rationale then, if something were to happen, I think it would be a natural part of that. You know, like you wouldn't, you wouldn't naturally, naturally feel like sharing me with anybody else really. Right. You know what I mean? Right. There's nobody else in your life or in your circle that, um, yeah, that might be fun or I would be open to that. There's no, and to me, there's no, there's no natural fit. Like I wouldn't feel comfortable with anybody else, you know, um, I wouldn't necessarily feel comfortable with the photographer, but on different levels, she scares the shit out of me sometimes, but in a very good way. Yeah. Yes. We're very fortunate to have them in our life. And now that you've gone along on our ride, as we evaluate our level of friendship with people. Um, that could almost be a separate and, um, anyways, do you have any rules in your dynamic prohibiting or allowing this, the, me being with another dominant or me being with a submissive? So we don't really, I don't really have any rules in our dynamic. I really don't. Well, the one rule is that your heart is mine. Oh yeah. I mean, as far as, absolutely. Right. And nobody, I mean, listen, you were made for me and I was made for you, there's, that's never an issue, but, um, yes, I mean that's, but I don't really have rules as far as play and- As it happening. Right. You don't have any rules as far as it happening or not happening. Right. I mean, nothing's really off the table. Obviously, if anything was going to happen, we would have communication first. Right. But as far as, you know, am I allowed to play with other submissives? Uh, yeah. Right. Yeah. I mean, there's, there's not, I mean, we have our foundation rules, like my heart is always yours. Right. Things like that. Safety and all the things. And, you know, as far as like, anytime I'm really playing with anybody, I always want him there. I'm more comfortable that way. But- It's not necessarily a rule, but it's like a rule of thumb, I guess. Yeah. Well, it's just from, I mean, if it was to ever come down to, you know, where I said, hey, I think I'm, I think I'm comfortable. And I mean, never when alcohol is involved, because I have terrible decision-making skills when I'm drinking. I'm the decision-maker at that point. He knows me well enough to know that, hey, you're saying this, but we're not going to go that route. So, um, but just- And in the morning, you will thank me. And I generally do. And I can't trust you. She thinks she saved me from something. Yes. Yes, she has. So that is it for the questions. Those were fantastic questions. And- We should do this again sometime. Yes. And you, the listener, who we thank for listening, can absolutely send us questions. I mean, this was one whole email full of questions, and I was so excited to do this. I just had to find the right time because I wanted him to be with me. My subbie. A good portion of my listeners. Mm-hmm. Right? And I think- Hey, buddy. Thanks for listening. I think- True story. I think that while men appreciate listening to what I have to say, I think having your spin on things as somebody who is a submissive daily, I mean, that's our life. I think a lot of people enjoy hearing what you have to say and your opinions on things. So I just- Listen. I would like to have you hear more. There is a whole tangent to go off on when it comes to men wanting to step into this situation and what they've been subjected to on social media or Pornhub or whatever on what the reality of this situation is. And there's a whole fucking tangent to go off on all this. So on that same line of the ask me anything, if you have questions for my subbie, send them to me and I will have him on who will answer the questions. I don't know everything, but I think I can be helpful. I think my two cents may help. That's my line. I don't know everything, but I can give you my opinion. Right. But that's exactly what this podcast is about. I'm just kidding. We're just two people madly in love sharing what we know with what we do. No, we're not a bestseller. We don't have courses. We don't do all those type of things. We're just talking about it. And we would love to talk to you about it. If you have questions. And we can do phone calls. We can do phone calls together too. Yep. We have all that stuff. It'd just be a friend talking to a friend. This is way more about building a community than making a few bucks. Yeah. Oh, absolutely. That's what this is about. I hope everyone stays safe, stays warm, has a fantastic week. And we will chat soon. Love you all. Mwah. 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