0610 Female Led Relationships: Boundaries in FLR: Why You’re Not Entitled to a Dominant’s Time

♪♪ This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. If you are not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to, and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers, or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle, and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. I just made a farting noise with my lip when I said feel. Just was starting the podcast. Welcome back. Hey Sammy. Hey, how's it going? It's like your tagline. I say welcome back, you say, hey, how's it going? That dates back years. Oh, you mean for the podcast or just? Yeah. Because I would suspect people didn't call you Sabby. And that's why I continue to do it. I like it. Do we have any housekeeping? I wish I could remember that song. Love in the school, F-L-R-S-K-O-O-L dot com. Customs are open on OF again. Custom erratic audio is open on OF again. For now, until we get tired of that or something. Until somebody pisses me off. Yes, that'll happen. I will just state, just because you're going to jerk off and blow your load to my voice doesn't mean you are entitled. Don't be a dick. You can play with it. Don't be one. That rolls us into our episode. Yeah. Are we done with housekeeping? I think we are. Good. Let's talk about it. I have my period. So in this episode, we're going to talk about the things that pissed Miss Christine off. Yes. I mean, it's not. Well, I mean, I would like to say it's justifiably. Yeah, I would like to say it's not all about me, but let's be real. It is. In my head, the world revolves around this. I know I do. And I'm not just saying that, that's the fucking truth. That was a very radio announcer-y way that you said that. All right. This one kind of started with, weeks ago, there was, how do I put this? There was a very active person on all your platforms who didn't get the responses and then bailed. Let me fill you in all on a little- I'm biting my tongue quite a bit. Yeah. In essence, that's what happened. I'm not going to. And let me tell you why. So in the beginning of this podcast, I did this podcast because I wanted to offer support and guidance for people who were new to this. And in the very beginning, I was not the dominant that I am now. In the beginning, I was a people pleaser. While I am still a little bit of a people pleaser, I frankly have zero, this many, zero fucks to give. Here's the thing, I am a human being, and if you've been here for any amount of time, you know being a part of my life is a motherfucking rollercoaster. Like, buckle the fuck up. Yeah. Buckle the fuck up. Yeah. You are not ever going to again, because I did this in the past, I will never feel guilty for not immediately responding. Like, I 100% am passionate about this podcast, but when it comes to my real life, if something's going on, fuck all, that's priority. Right, and it's not just the podcast stuff. No, it's everything. It's the OF and it's the LF. Well, right, when I say podcast stuff, it's all encompassing. Whatever. Yes. Right. And to be honest, I don't do anything. We could probably just stop there. That's not true. You do all the things, but there's like some high expectations on you as if you are just an internet personality and that's you just live there and that's where you do everything, when in reality, that's just a part of- Oh my God, we sound like TikTok influencers. You only get to see a portion of my life. I'm only sharing with you. That's not even- I know, that's exactly where I went with that. Yes, still, right? I know. We don't intend to preach about that necessarily, right? But there's a certain demographic of people, certain group of people who think that you're just- That this is all I do. You live on TikTok and that you live on your OF, but that's like a small, you know? I have other things going on in my life and I am not by any way implying that I think I am this big influencer or that I have all these followers. I just don't, right? But the people that do interact with me, for the most part, are very, very valuable people. But it also gets a little bit overwhelming and sometimes I feel like Gumby and I can't go in every- Does everybody know who Gumby is? Pretty much, yeah. I cannot go in 18 directions and sometimes I just shut the fuck down. And we've all had- I mean, this has been said multiple times. My middle finger really fucking hurts. Sorry, 80. I'm sorry. I think I have a trigger finger. Anyway, or I'm old, which leads into what I was going to say is- Nice bridge. It could be a perimetopausal thing. It could be, I just, I don't know, neurodivergent. Maybe I have a spicy brain that goes with my sprinkly relationship. Yes, okay, but you're also at the core of it, you're a human fucking being, right? You're a real human being with real thoughts, real problems, real celebrations, real all things, right? I am far from perfect. As is everybody. And I don't give a fuck who you are, right? Unless you're Jesus. But- Maybe. Yes. If that's your thing. But I mean, but that's my point. Like nobody is perfect. Nobody can, listen, jump into AI then. If you are a hardcore submissive and you need all these things and the human person can't deliver everything, just go to your AI. Well, and here's the other thing too, I'm not your dominant. Correct. Like, I control him. This big, beautiful man right here, big muscles and all, that's what I dominate. Does that mean that I am not willing to add to that at this time? Well, I mean, how do you say that? But like, I'm not, you don't control, nobody controls me. Right? And you do what you feel like doing. So if you feel like controlling- What? If I'm online, if I'm on an app and I'm scrolling, maybe I don't fucking feel like answering messages at the moment. Maybe, yeah, right. But as far as the controlling part, if you feel like taking on a client, right? Then you might do that. Yeah, and that would be more of a key holding thing. Right. I don't know that I would do, I don't know. What day is it? I mean, listen, literally- It could be really anything. Yes. At this point, right? But, what? Oh, you, it looked like you were looking, were you just looking at my boobs? Maybe. Okay. You were looking over here, but I couldn't tell if it was- Like, you're open to a lot of different things, right? At the same time, you can't possibly do all the different things, right? That's the thing. And maybe you're gonna do this thing, and then maybe this thing, and then you're done. And that's okay, right? Listen, I live with it, right? Send help. But if that's what he's saying, send help. But my point is, I don't have all these expectations of you. No, you don't. You go with the flow very well. I know that you're a human being, and I know that you have this going on, and that going on, and the other things. So, like, I'll pick my little things that, okay, we kind of need to do this, and we should really do that, right? And then I look at him and say, we're not doing any of that. Your breathing annoys me. Yes. That's usually how that goes. I've only said it once. No, that's not usually how that goes. Sometimes that's how that goes, and that's okay too. Yeah, do we wanna just tiptoe into what a snotty subbie is, or a bratty subbie? Because sometimes he thinks it's funny to fuck with me. It gets your, it gets your blood pumping. I like how you gave me a little punch on the thigh, like we're buddies. We're buddies, we're pals. I don't know how far I should take this. I'm just gonna give you a little leg tap. At the same time, at the same time, I know not to push you, right? I know not to, well, I'm the boss, and you're gonna do this, right? I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Right, but that's my point. Yes. That is my point. No, it's always, it literally, you literally fit the category of what I've always known as a brat. You seriously, like, it's like, he just, just a little picky pick here and there, right? And it's funny. Okay, because. I mean, sometimes he's just on fire, and he's sassy as a motherfucker. I just, and it's funny, but sometimes I wanna fucking punch him in the face. Just. Okay. Which is why I think he does it. He's just waiting. Maybe. There's gonna be one day, I'm just gonna haul off and slap him, but it's funny when he's doing it. It's so funny when he does it. Yeah. I know your sense of humor. Yeah, that's true. I know your levels, right? I know that in those few days a month, shut the fuck up, right? No, it's been a lot better since we've exercised. Like, I wouldn't really even know that I have my period right now. Yeah. But still, there's still reserved those days or couple days or one day or whatever it is where I know there's. I can do no wrong. I mean, I can do no wrong most days, but. But just to leave you the fuck alone. I would like you to stand on your head for 45 seconds. He's like, yep, I'm on it right now. 100%. But know to just leave you the fuck alone and let you do your thing and whatever. And it's not like, I don't wanna do all of this. That's not what I'm saying at all, right? I'm saying just to pull back. You know your wife pretty well. Right. Teachable fucking moment. Know your wife, right? Know that she's not on this planet to make your subby dreams come true, right? Not the point at all. Also, part of why this episode is being done too is that, you know, we started this podcast, we went hard for a year. And then, actually we went hard for probably three years. Yeah, a couple, three years, yeah. And then we moved out of the house and things got a little tricky and things just went different and it kind of faded off. And I have no idea where I was going with this. It totally escaped my brain. Yes, it's the seasons of life, but I am very much putting effort into it. And this is like, I mean, we're back to what it was when we started in the beginning. Very much, and I'm fucking loving it. It's a blast. And I'm trying not to repeat things, but now all those episodes are gone. So now I don't know, I mean, not all. Some of those episodes have disappeared. Like we lost some of them, right? Or do you have them all? We lost the video parts. Oh. We have 99 point something percent of the audio ones which are still being dropped. Like one was dropped, well, probably one is dropped later this week. I had to conclude. We're in season two, I think, of redropping. Okay, I wasn't in line with my production team. Well, that's okay. Sorry. You're just quietly doing stuff in the background and all the things. Oh, by the way, I'm the one that posts all the socials. Right? I make the posts, I put them up there, but I don't, she does the comments, right? You will respond to the comments, right? That's just kind of what we do because she does not want to sit there and fucking hand post on every platform that we're on. The individual things. I got that. Right? I can do that. Yeah, he makes the posts, like creates the posts and posts the posts. And schedules them and stuff, right? So even though there's a hundred posts a week or whatever it is that goes out, that doesn't mean that you're sitting on your phone doing the thing, right? I appreciate you. You're sitting on the phone doing this thing. I was waiting, you said something. And there it is, folks. A view right there into bratty subbie. I'm sorry. You said something though, just a minute ago. It's not like she's on TikTok all day. I'm like, I mean, I'm not now. Cause, but. It's consuming and creating. And you walk that fine line. Oh, I'm a hell of a consumer. Across the board. But you also are a heavy creator. You personally, maybe not, but your brand is. Oh, yes. Yes. With your blessing, of course. Oh, I'm not. I just, I was really waiting when you said something. Yeah, let me qualify that. I might be doing all this stuff, but I'm not gonna do it if I don't have the green light. Yeah, oh, yeah. So I'm doing it on sort of your behalf with your blessing. In an FLR terms, he's my production bitch. Yes. I say the things. I do the things and I look pretty. And then he takes it from there. Is that good for you? Absolutely. Absolutely. And then I do this. Yep. And we make light of it, really. But we're an incredibly good team at all of this, right? This sort of rebirth that we've done starting in January of 26 or whatever, right? We've sat down and figured out, let's do this again, right? Let's try this. Let's put some fucking effort into this, right? Previous to this, we were doing work for everybody. Fucking 12, 16 hour days sitting at a computer and for no reason whatsoever while our brand sat dormant, right? Anyways. And here's the funny part about- But this, I just wanna say, to this time around, we figured out that, okay, you do this part, right? And I'll do this part. This part. I'll do this part. And I'll do this part. Yes, and I mean, that's what he signed up for. Female-led relationships, sign me up. Okay, I'm gonna do this much. You do this much. And guess who gets to decide that? Ooh, pick me. We do, right? We decide that for our podcast and our content. Oh, yes. Listen, if you want- Wait, did you say our? Oh, I fucking did because Judy and Steve is in this too, by the way. This is a podcast team now. That's fine. I'm okay now that it's a team. Yes. It's not our. If it's our, it's mine. Yes. But now that there's a team. Yes, okay. I'll allow it. Our podcast. Yeah, and that was our episodic drop of Judy and Steve. Because if you listen closely, they are in every episode. By our choice. I don't even know if they want to be, but here we are. We do. They're amazing human beings. They are. I forgot where I was going with. That's okay. Damn it, Jim. It was good too. I got period brain. Judy and Steve, episodic, our podcast. We decide working. Oh, I know what I was going to say. Okay. So we have helped. We, like he's got a turd in his pocket. He. Oh, you were doing it too. Very minimal. Oh, okay, wait, let me say the one that I did help on did have the most downloads out of all the podcasts. Absolutely, well, is anybody shocked? I picked the good topics, right? Yes, yes. I just would like to say thank you to you listening to this podcast because it was very eyeopening. I mean, I had no idea when we started this and I was like, oh, look, we have 90 downloads. And then all of a sudden it was, oh, look, we have 600. Oh, look, we have 50,000. Oh, look, we had 140,000. Oh, look, this podcast has probably a million downloads from day one. Yes, because when we were in Florida. Not even bullshitting or begging. When we were in Florida, what was it, two years ago? It was our first podfest, I think. We were on the balcony and we hit half a million. Yep, that was two years ago. Three years ago, two years ago. I don't know, it doesn't matter. Might've been three years ago. Time is, it's all part of the, what is it, simulation? I think it was three years ago. It might've been. Yeah, and that was at a half a million at that point. Yes, and then we stopped. Anyways. My whole point being that there was some really, really good podcasts that he helped produce, right? And they would drop and they would max out at 18. Or two. Not 200, not 2,000. Two. Two. And then thanks to you listening to this podcast, we started back up and the day this thing drops, we have 700 within an hour. Yeah. It's insane to me. Yes, we're not, again, goddammit, there's none of what's this bragging, right? No, it's not. It just blows me away. It's mind blowing. It is, and this is me saying, while I'm bitching about making me feel like Gumby sometime, not you specifically, but sometimes I feel like Gumby, I'm so appreciative for the people that take the time to listen to the podcast. Like, thank you for listening to us ramble or, you know, drop Steve and Judy's name or, you know, whatever it is. Well, I gotta make up for past episodes that we missed it. Absolutely. But I just, I don't want it to feel like, I just made a farting noise with my lip when I said feel. Guess what's starting the podcast. You're welcome. Thank you. I just don't want it to feel like I'm unappreciative because I really am. I also don't think I'm famous. We just had a conversation today. Like, do you think that the cashier at so-and-so listens to your podcast? And I'm like, it would be so weird the first time I get noticed. And I, like, somebody recognizes me and I don't know that anybody will, but I do have the logo on my thumb. So I'm just waiting for somebody to catch that and be like, I wonder if that's, like, I don't know how many people listen around here or whatever, but if you recognize me, would you say anything? Like, send me an email. Tell me, if you saw me in public or if you saw me in a public setting, would you be like, hey, I listened to your podcast? Or would you not want to say anything just because of- For fuck's sakes, come and talk to us. Yes. I mean, privacy, obviously. I understand if people don't say anything, but it always makes me wonder if people know who I am. And I don't, not because I feel like I should be famous, but there are so many of you listening to this podcast. Like, somebody has to be in our area that listens to this podcast. I think in this- Or when we're out on the road or whatever sometimes. I am a socially awkward motherfucker. Sort of. I mean- Until there's a little bit of encouragement, then you're a social butterfly. Well, no, but I mean- North Dakota. Okay, shut up. That was carbless. Carbless for the win. I got a participation trophy for that. Yes, you did. I'm sorry, I derailed us. I can be socially awkward. Small talk is hard for me. If you want to delve into, ooh, delve. You said delve. Jeeper. Only AI says that. Are we AI? Good job. Fucking hate that word. Like, if we want to dive into like an in-depth topic or whatever, I'll talk and won't shut up. If you talk to me about FLR, I will talk about it and I will not shut up, but I'm a little bit awkward. Kind of. I just love when... I would sincerely love if someone came up to us and say, I think I know who you are, and we are listeners, and I would say, let's fucking talk. I mean, really all you'd have to say, communication is key. That'd be like- That's like the code phrase, right? What were we? What was the point? Oh. That you're a human being and you're going to do what you want when you want, and that's okay. See, this is why he's a good subbie. Right, but that's the point, right? And please, please don't have any expectations of her because of your needs, right? Yeah, I don't live 24-7 to help you cum. Right, but I mean patience and some understanding. Well- And if that doesn't work for you, maybe find another person in this genre. And I have an inbox full of people who are patient and I appreciate you. There have been a lot of un- Unanswered emails? Maybe. Real sorry. I give you one thing to do. I'm just kidding. Yeah, I talk. Yeah, okay. Two things to do. That's one too many. Okay. Was there anything else that we wanted to add to this? I don't think so. Like I said, I just, for the love of God, just some patience or move on. One of the two, right? Because I mean, that's the reality of it. And we live in reality and not online. You don't have to announce your departure either. We're not an airport. Nope. Do my arms look stronger? Mm-hmm. Look at that, Jesus Christ. Maybe I don't want to be hit by you. Or maybe I do. What's her name? First. Oh, Julia Child. Oh, Julia Child, yeah. That's where we're at. I am really spicy today. Two turntables and microphone. We're trying to land this plate so bad. Anyway, I do appreciate the people who do have patience with me. And this isn't supposed to be an episode just bitching about the people that sign. And it's not even the thing that I'm doing. They suck, they're just impatient. We live in a very entitled world, unfortunately. And that's all I'm gonna say about that because we don't do politics here at the old Christine Kellogg's FLR podcast. We do not. Okay. Okay. Have a fantastic week. Be kind, stay safe, stay healthy. Love you all. Mwah.