EP: 0404 - Female Led Relationships - Embracing the "Seasons" in our Female-Led Relationship

0:00:02 - Bryan
Thank you, Right in the Face. 

0:00:03 - Krystine
You're welcome. 

0:00:08 - Disclaimer
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0:00:40 - Bryan
Welcome back. It's been a while. 

0:00:43 - Krystine
It has been a while. We are currently sitting in a hot tub at a KOA in Albuquerque, New Mexico. 

0:00:52 - Bryan
Bet, you didn't see that coming. 

0:00:53 - Krystine
Oh, and Tuffy's here Weird. Oh yeah, because it's our podcast. Yeah, it's now our podcast. That our is me, my subbie and Judy and Steve. 

0:01:02 - Bryan
So it's our podcast. Close, Judy and. 

0:01:04 - Krystine
Steve. 

0:01:04 - Disclaimer
Hey. 

0:01:06 - Krystine
So we made it to Elbacur, new Mexico, and we are in a screaming room, so anybody sitting outside could possibly begin a live shooting of KFLR. 

0:01:15 - Bryan
Not a big deal. 

0:01:17 - Krystine
This episode is going to be about seasons of a female relationship, because I feel like one is the season for stress and oh yeah, good point. 

It is the Christmas season and that tends to put a lot of strain on relationships, so we're going to talk about seasons, but before we dig into that, I have a few things that I want to update you on. For housekeeping, we'll try to get the real sound in there, but we'll see. I just want this to get out so that everybody knows one I'm alive and two well, we're both alive. 

0:01:53 - Bryan
Everything's okay. 

0:01:53 - Krystine
Yes, Okay, it's subjective. We are healthy, we are alive. We've had some mechanical difficulties. Listen. 

0:02:00 - Bryan
November. That's for a different podcast. Yeah. 

0:02:02 - Krystine
November has been a little bit rough, as was October. 

0:02:05 - Bryan
I think October was worse. 

0:02:07 - Krystine
Yes, oh, for sure, I think. 

0:02:08 - Bryan
November has been fairly manageable. 

0:02:10 - Krystine
Yeah, fairly manageable, a little stressful. Let's give a quick update. It's kind of Christine's camping podcast. We are no longer residents at the clothing optional campground. Yes, october was financially straining and there were some circumstances. 

0:02:26 - Bryan
We Like September and October. Like September, there was very little work for me, and then October had every fucking day had something. 

0:02:35 - Krystine
Yeah, there was just all the different places that money was disappearing to Yep. Anyway, we decided it was in our best financial interest to leave that campground, and I'm going to leave it at that. 

0:02:48 - Bryan
To find out the real story. You can go on Patreon because it's very juicy. 

0:02:51 - Krystine
Yeah, I'm going to post the whole fucking thing there. 

0:02:55 - Disclaimer
Yep. 

0:02:56 - Krystine
I need this to say that season has ended for us. Will another campground come our way? Probably not in the Minnesota-Wisconsin area. Unless we have friends that open one of their own, we will miss a lot of people from camp. 

0:03:11 - Bryan
That is the fact. 

0:03:12 - Krystine
And I intend on being very intentional on getting together with them. So that's all on that. Next big thing is we are planning a Vegas meetup and it will be May 16th through the 19th 2024. I'm looking into Airbnb's just off the strip, I'm looking at getting people who could maybe come and do a class or two of some variety and really it's just a weekend of being with like-minded people talking about different things that maybe come up in your relationship and how other couples maybe have handled it, and maybe there's some tips. I suspect there will be excellent food. 

0:03:57 - Bryan
Yeah, that's a fact. It could be almost looked at as like a Christine Kellogg mastermind yeah, a very mistress mind, using the term very loosely. 

0:04:08 - Krystine
Yes, I am only going to do five couples. That's including myself and myself, and there's two other spots that are already filled, so that leaves two spots for two couples remaining. If you are interested, I need you to reach out to me via social media, my email, whatever it is. 

0:04:28 - Bryan
Time is of the essence. 

0:04:29 - Krystine
Yes, I need to get this booked and I need to know exactly how many people are coming and be prepared for what space we need Right. 

0:04:40 - Bryan
As far as this podcast, it's a little weird now not having a room to do it in or whatever we are all in one room in our rolling abode, wishful thinking out weekly would still be great. Obviously, we'd love to do that. We don't know exactly how that's going to look, but it's not going to end. 

0:04:57 - Krystine
No, it's not. And once we get to our destination in Arizona and we're settled and don't have travel days, it'll be much easier. 

0:05:06 - Bryan
We've also learned that recording off my sub-ease laptop in the truck actually provides really, really good sound quality so yeah we could go outside and do it, or whatever, right, and we have a tent that we can set up and sit underneath that in the morning, where the boy will sleep till fucking noon, or whatever. 

0:05:26 - Krystine
Anyways, yeah, well, he can't sleep till noon because he has school at 9. 

0:05:29 - Bryan
But yes, Whatever it is, yes. 

0:05:31 - Krystine
Just bear with us. This is just the season that we are currently in. 

0:05:36 - Bryan
Absolutely. 

0:05:36 - Krystine
And on that note, as far as our relationship, I mean, we always have a female-led dynamic, Even when we're not really intentionally putting it out there. I think, that our dynamic just kind of runs itself because we've done it long enough. 

0:05:56 - Bryan
Right. 

0:05:57 - Krystine
However, is it as fun as it was when we had the apartment or had? One a long time and things like that. 

0:06:04 - Bryan
So that was like a peak right. So we had the space, the opportunity to venture into some physical things. And where we're not able to do that now, I mean, does that make or break your FLR? Probably not. 

0:06:20 - Krystine
No, it's more about attitude really. Yeah, I miss that. 

0:06:24 - Bryan
Yeah. 

0:06:24 - Krystine
I know it's not over forever either. 

0:06:26 - Bryan
No far, no Far no. 

0:06:29 - Krystine
Is that like Fargo? 

0:06:30 - Bryan
Fargo. There's a new season, you know. 

0:06:33 - Krystine
Yeah, listen on task ADHD Swirl. 

0:06:36 - Bryan
So we left Minnesota about a month ago. 

0:06:40 - Krystine
We left Minnesota. 

0:06:41 - Bryan
Almost a month ago. 

0:06:41 - Krystine
We left our home campground October 30th. 

0:06:43 - Bryan
Right. So we're almost a month in and this trip that we're on this journey, this, whatever it is, from Minnesota to Arizona, that's what we're doing. It has its ebbs and flows, based on the situation. You know what I mean. There are times that I need to take the wheel for whatever reason, like problem solving, emergency things, whatever. 

0:07:09 - Krystine
Right, it's a metaphorical wheel, because I'm not ever driving this truck in Canberra. No, I'm not Exactly. It's fine. 

0:07:15 - Bryan
No, it's like you're normally at the wheel right, but there are times where I have to jump in and do the thing because that's just Like two flat tires. Like hitting a massive fucking pothole. 

0:07:26 - Krystine
And getting two flat tires on Thanksgiving. 

0:07:28 - Bryan
It's not just the two flat tires, it was the bed rims. 

0:07:31 - Krystine
And possibly bent axles. 

0:07:33 - Bryan
Right. 

0:07:34 - Krystine
And in this case this is kind of how our dynamic works. I didn't say a word. I was right there If he needed me, I'd let him figure out what needed to be done Right, and if he needed something he would ask. 

0:07:45 - Bryan
Right. 

0:07:45 - Krystine
I was there to be supportive. 

0:07:47 - Bryan
I love that she gave me the space to figure things out step by step. I had to sort out OK, what do we need to do first? What do we need to do second? Like that had to happen in that moment instead of panicking or freaking out or any of that Right, that wasn't going to do us any good. Like I had to go straight to OK, what's the first thing? 

You know, OK, we have a spare and we're going to put it on the trailer so that it's at least mobile in the parking lot. We happen to end up there Right. So that was the first step. Yeah, okay. So the second step is actually moving the camper, and I'm sorry this is getting to Christine's camping podcast, but whatever your issue is that you come across, this is a parallel. 

0:08:31 - Krystine
Yeah, and you have to figure out how your partner works. Like I knew, now wasn't the time to ask him all the questions. And even when I noticed the rim was bent, I didn't immediately point it out. I let him get things situated, I let him get the other tire on the camper and all of that, and then he either noticed on his own or I pointed it out? 

0:08:49 - Bryan
You pointed it out. I had no idea. I didn't even know until you pointed it out. 

0:08:53 - Krystine
Yeah. 

0:08:54 - Bryan
Like that made the situation that much worse because I knew at that point like the rims on this camper are very old yeah they're old style 200 bucks for one rim. Oh, it was almost three. 

0:09:04 - Krystine
Well, to get it overnight. 

0:09:06 - Bryan
Right 278 plus shipping was, so it was almost 378. All sudden done. 

0:09:11 - Krystine
Yes, but back to the topic at Ham Ramblin, randy, we, I think, handled that very well and it's been kind of a bumpy road since then. But I think that I mean, even I was very worried about my youngest and how he would play into our dynamic and how all of this would work and it's really just flowed and even in the super shitty times I haven't cried once, which I thought for sure I would be crying constantly. And I have not cried once and my son has been like he just knows, he's just been really. 

I mean he gets a little bit hyper every now and then. He's not a big fan of boondocking because he can't play video games. 

0:09:53 - Bryan
Yeah, he's in that poking the bear stage. 

0:09:56 - Krystine
Yes, but he knows, Like the early teens right, yes, and he knows when not to poke. 

0:10:00 - Bryan
He's very much learning that, yes, and he's getting very good at that. And he's knowing when to poke the bear, when it's okay Me being the bear, but no, he's getting pretty good at that, yeah. 

0:10:11 - Krystine
Overall, would I 10 out of 10, recommend doing this in our current setup? I don't know about 10 out of 10. I mean, I'm probably at a solid eight right now. 

0:10:22 - Disclaimer
Yeah. 

0:10:23 - Krystine
As far as our seasons, I feel like I have far less stress Now. Yes, things have been stressful, but Christmas is always a stressful season and I just don't feel that because I think that I'm really enjoying the little things and seeing things and spending time with you. I've really kind of I don't know that I dove head first, but I do have more of an interest and skill set at the editing and I'm trying to get better at that. 

0:10:55 - Bryan
Well, it's divvying up what our strengths are. Like I said, you know, figuring out what our strengths are and then tacking each of the jobs as that right. At the same time, you're learning things Like even, for instance, today, you know, I had some things that are kind of piling up on me to finish for a client, and it's not that I don't like doing them. If I don't have to do those parts, it's like what is your time worth? 

0:11:24 - Krystine
Yeah, right, and then what can you delegate to someone else? And I'm totally good with doing a different hat, like as far as our business is concerned. I'm okay with him delegating. He just has to do it in the right fashion, and I think he knows how to do that. 

0:11:39 - Disclaimer
He asks for help or whatever. It's not. You need to do this it will also be much more successful. 

0:11:43 - Krystine
Once I know my role, you know what I mean. 

0:11:46 - Disclaimer
Like. 

0:11:46 - Krystine
I am set in my role. 

0:11:47 - Bryan
Go ahead. I'm sorry. 

0:11:49 - Krystine
Well, no, go ahead, we're just kind of getting off track of Right. 

0:11:53 - Bryan
We're still figuring out our roles, right. We don't really know what your role is necessarily going to be, because your role isn't necessarily going to be what I do, full time, but your role can be other things when it comes to the business part. That's all. So this to say that your FLR can have seasons. 

0:12:11 - Krystine
Yes. And they can be dramatically up and down Right. 

0:12:15 - Bryan
It can be, you know, like we're talking before the time in the apartment with all the physical stuff and like all use the metaphor of running on all cylinders. Right, it's not like we're not running on all cylinders now, but obviously there's some aspects to it that aren't available to us right now. Those things are out of our season for now. 

0:12:34 - Krystine
And I think right now too, we're both like we're not stressed, but I think we're both a little tense. 

0:12:38 - Bryan
until we reach our landing spot, we are and it just happens to be because of our vehicle and whatever of choice, maybe not being as top notch as a lot of people that do this. Yeah, A lot of it is. I mean, listen, use what you have. 

0:12:52 - Krystine
We were going to stay in Minnesota and freeze in our camper, or we were going to get the fuck out of Arizona and not freeze. 

0:12:58 - Disclaimer
Right. 

0:12:59 - Krystine
So I mean that's really where we're at. So we went with what we had. I don't regret our decision. 

0:13:03 - Bryan
No. 

0:13:03 - Krystine
And I don't think that. 

0:13:05 - Bryan
I regret being baldheaded to having to take Route 66. 

0:13:10 - Krystine
I regret that. It's a lesson learned Right. 

0:13:12 - Bryan
we learned the lesson, and the lesson was if you have a more solid setup, route 66 is fine. But we don't, yeah Our camper is saying fuck you the whole time. 

0:13:22 - Krystine
Yeah, this fucking camper is tired. 

0:13:24 - Disclaimer
Yeah. 

0:13:25 - Krystine
However, as far as our relationship goes, we may not be as hot and heavy as we were, but I would say that this trip has only made us stronger. 

0:13:35 - Bryan
Oh, there is nobody I could do this with other than you. 

0:13:38 - Krystine
And you know, we both know our rules and we kind of just operate out of routine right now. 

0:13:45 - Bryan
Yeah, kind of. I mean, we're going from place to place to place. Yeah, once we sit still. 

0:13:49 - Krystine
things could be a little bit different and, like I said in the beginning, once we get situated, if we have to, I would like to get back to more serious email lab relationship content because, I do miss it and it's important for me to check in. I also think that it's important for me to do this podcast, whether I'm doing it by myself or whether my savvy is here. We do have an interview set up with Judy and Steve. 

0:14:12 - Bryan
Yeah. 

0:14:14 - Krystine
And we will be settled for that interview and, at fingers crossed, we will have good fucking Wi-Fi. Yeah, I'm excited for that interview. Those two really get me wrapped up for just good stuff. Just for doing this podcast and having to get together. And now I'm wrapped up for summer and you know all the things. 

0:14:31 - Bryan
But if your FLR isn't running on all cylinders right now, like maybe you're lacking things, maybe it's the time of year, the things are just not like they were in September or July or whatever, it's okay. It really is Because again, and I'll say this to home blue in the face right, your FLR is your FLR and there's nobody that can decide that for you. Right, you as a couple decide what that looks like, in whatever season you're in. 

0:14:59 - Krystine
Mm-hmm, I agree we're in a weird season right now, but I still think we have a very strong foundation. 

0:15:06 - Disclaimer
Yeah, yeah, and. 

0:15:06 - Krystine
I think that we have had a lot thrown at us and I think we've handled it very well. 

0:15:11 - Bryan
And. 

0:15:11 - Krystine
I'm very happy with where we are. I'm very excited to get a bus someday, or whatever our next thing is. 

0:15:19 - Bryan
We may come home in a bus. We have no fucking idea right now. Yeah. 

0:15:24 - Krystine
I'm manifesting it, yep, so let's just see what happens. Yeah, we can handle a bus build together or rock solid, just kidding. 

0:15:32 - Bryan
Oh see what you did there. 

0:15:35 - Krystine
Just sleeping around rocks. 

0:15:36 - Bryan
Yes, oh, what a hint. 

0:15:39 - Krystine
What Merge coming soon? Yes, we're trying to get our other podcast up and going too. 

0:15:44 - Bryan
That's where you'll find the merge. Yeah, linkedin viral. 

0:15:47 - Krystine
I can't I digress. If anybody's interested, he is still free willy, because currently that's just not in the budget right now. 

0:15:56 - Bryan
Well, it's not in the budget, and where the fuck are you going to ship it to? 

0:15:58 - Krystine
We have to figure out our shipping Once we get to Arizona. 

0:16:00 - Bryan
It'll be easier, hey you know, shout out to the listeners. If you're in the Southwest US area and there's a store that sells those things that you know about, seriously hit us up. It's possible, yeah, I suppose. Otherwise we have to order one and then we have to figure out how we're going to get it? 

0:16:15 - Krystine
Should we ship it to our girls? 

0:16:17 - Bryan
No. 

0:16:17 - Krystine
Just kidding. Three, two and nine. 

0:16:20 - Disclaimer
I'm going to add another label on it. I've said a few times wherever you're at, you're at, Don't let anybody tell you you have to be at a certain place. 

0:16:30 - Bryan
I'm blue in the face now. 

0:16:31 - Krystine
Yes, because communication is key in your FLRs 100% yes. Any ladies that are interested in joining our Ladies Group. The next one is December 14th, I believe, and then after the first of the year, we are doing another group meeting where your significant other can join the group and we have a conversation. 

0:16:52 - Bryan
Right, and we're hoping to split that off as a guys night. 

0:16:56 - Krystine
At some point. Yeah, At some point too. So the guys have their own group. Yeah, reach out if you're interested in something like that. 

0:17:02 - Bryan
I like talking to just a couple guys that I talk to now and I'd like to grow that group. You know that group of people that I talk to and whatever. 

0:17:09 - Krystine
Oh, it's almost like you have friends. 

0:17:11 - Bryan
I do Shout out to my Canadian friend. 

0:17:15 - Krystine
There you go. 

0:17:16 - Bryan
There, you go. 

0:17:17 - Krystine
We're doing shout outs. Shout out to one of my ladies who recently just had surgery. Billy Joe, I hope you're healing fast and doing well, and I hope your savvy is taking very good care of you. I think he is. This is just an update. I think I will post this unedited version in my Patreon. 

0:17:33 - Bryan
Yeah, on the Patreon thing, the pricing has changed slightly. 

0:17:38 - Krystine
Yeah, I just got rid of the $5 tier, or I'm trying to. So it's $10 is the entry level and then which gets you all access to Patreon. And then, if you do $25 tier, you get a 30 minute video call once a month or phone call, whatever you're comfortable with. And then the $50 tier gets you a 60 minute phone or video call with me If you just want to chat about some things that are going on in your relationship or you just need an ear to listen to things that you're struggling with and so forth. 

0:18:12 - Bryan
Yup. 

0:18:12 - Krystine
Last minute housekeeping. Yeah, a little bit. I mean, that's pretty much what this whole thing has been. It's just a little bit of housekeeping, a little bit of update. I just want everybody to know that we are doing fine overall. Our female-led relationship is firmly in place, though it is in a less exciting season. 

0:18:30 - Bryan
Right, but it's still a season. It is still a season. You, to the valued listener, enjoy your season. Another one will come. 

0:18:36 - Krystine
And I still like the motherfucker, it's fucking crazy. Our anniversary is coming up. How long have we been married? Seven years. 

0:18:43 - Bryan
Like a hundred and seven In a good way. Okay, just making sure. Yeah, so it would be that one. 

0:18:51 - Krystine
Give your balls a tongue. 

0:18:54 - Bryan
No, I'm not sure of the references. That's for the other podcast. I can do whatever I want, yeah that's your podcast. 

0:18:59 - Krystine
Ooh, well, like when we come back to that. Yup. So there's the update. I will also post in my Patreon the full, unedited version of why we left the naked campground. Yes, and I will also post the details for Vegas in a separate post. To be able to see those, you do have to be a $10 tier member. I know the $5 member is still available and that I just can't get rid of it until there isn't anybody joined as a $5. 

And I mean listen, if you want to join as a $5 member and you're okay with not being able to see the things, just offering support. 

0:19:32 - Bryan
I'm totally fine with that Right, and all you're getting at $5 is the podcast. 

0:19:37 - Krystine
Yeah, I would just like to Well you're, and you're getting the edited podcast. 

0:19:40 - Disclaimer
Yeah, you won't get the unedited. 

0:19:41 - Krystine
Right, that's the options, yup, and I sincerely appreciate all my people and I thank you for listening. Back to our regularly scheduled programming very soon, yup, when I'm hopefully in sunny Arizona in the next few days. Yes, thanks for being here, savi, in this sweaty hot tub, with me In this hot tub, hot tub. I should do more voiceover. 

0:20:07 - Bryan
Yes. 

0:20:08 - Krystine
Okay, you should Be safe. Be well, be kind. Love you, mwah. Thank you so much for listening today. I genuinely appreciate your time. 

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